You Dont Need To Win Them All

Human beings are very complex , you never  know when your actions or your words would be considered  deeply offensive . . Wether  your intention is to offend or flatter  it will be considered deeply offensive . Most people are offended easily and whatever  you say will always be interpreted as each person private   perception of themselves .

I have a friend who grows up with an absent father and a dominated mother . . She grew up with dominating mother  and obtain 3 masters degree . , however she has a hard time in applying her schooling to the real world . She show no interest in entering any profession in which she has studying . ,

Whenever i saw her she would complain about her tough her life was , how much she needed money , and how awful her living conditiioning  were . . I always encourage her by praising her abilty to obtain three masters degree while others were having difficulty having one .

I didnt realise  that deep inside her she harbours  feelings of inferiority towards me because of her own lack of courage and proffesional accomplishement , she did not know how to alter her current circumstances and had her grown bitter . For people like her , you cant do much because  no matter what  you say , they will always  find fault .

The best thing to do is to protect your self and energy  from these kind of people and press on with your life . You  dont need to win them all .



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Only have have people in your life who, on balance , make it better not worse

The  greatest support system in life are friends who knows everything about you and still like you . also friendships are not compulsory , you dont have to stay with them unless you want to , the rules is to have goos friends who support  you and makes you feel good . Avoid friends s that makes you feel worse . Most people generally feel bad about themselves  so they will makes you feel the same .  .

I know this is not easy , what about that friends  that alway sabotage your effort and put you down . but really makes you laugh . . What about the ones whos is negative about your dream . Realise  that most of your friends might not be living their dreams so they will one way or the others to sabotage yours . .

The point of having a friends  is to feel better than we would , According to a clinical  pscysollogy   is to make frinds with people that are good for you . This is not always easy but why have friends if they dont do this much for us .. of course you dont want to make their life worse too .

Its not about avoiding them completely , but you can stop confiding  in them or telling them your dream or goals . , Simple relegate them to a position of acquaitance . The only way you can evaluate your friends  is to have audit of them and see if they making your life richer .

And the good thing about friends is they are not compulsory .

Exercise of the week

30 mins cardio , conditioning 75 percent of your heart rate .


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Many Ways To Feel Strong

Recently ive been feeling  really strong and productive . Ive become more aware of my energy and feelings and who i want to give it to . Ive been looking into setting really strong boudaries and this has created  for me many ways ways to feel strong . Feeling strong has  nothing  to do with   lifting   heavy objects on the floor .

Strong  people are generally nice human being 0 they can draw from their own strength without sabotaging someone else .  Strength  has tow primary  aspects energy and determination . , you can intensify this by quikening your breath a little or by thightenining your shoulders lightly .

When face with a situation , recall a time when you feel really strong and draw from that experience . bring to mind the  sense of strength you experince during those times . I used to apply these tactics when im facing a very difficuult opponent during my tennis career and it works most of the time .

Feeling strong also comes in many forms including quiet perseverance . Get familiar with what strength feels like in your body so that you can so that you can call it up again .  Deliberalely stimulating the feelings of strength to deepen their neurons pathway.

Those ways will create a path way any  time you have a sense of not feeling strong .


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Push If Its Hurt , good

The words  easy is usually the way to trapped people . Its always a big trap and your mindset is to find something easy with half effort then you will fall into this trap . – if you look  around you , – you will see several easy steps towards success –  Seven easy days to thinner thigh , Seven easy stpes to financial freedom – Seven esay moves to lower your golf score .

The reason  we see them repeatedly is because , freedom ,thinner tiighs  , and lower golf scores still eludes us . . They eludes us because these easy steps do not work .They leads us to the next easy step and the next . They do untill you resaonably observe that hard work works better .

Ive had success in my career as a pro athlete , ive also lost my ways when i hang with people who loves the easy step . , The fundamental sign of mental health is one realise that life is hard . .

Ive been learning and building my besness for the past 6 years – before i used to work in a commercial gym before opening up my own private studio and its hurt at very steps of the way but i keep psihing hard ..

Half effort always produces half result – hard work is the only way to resolves the matter so if it hurts thats good . And its always okay to walk your own path .

If you ve been working all week – do this exercise to feel good

Set a goals and commit your goals to paper








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Dwelling In The Past Distract You From The Presents

Its not just sad or tragic events that leave  people focused on the past . Sometimes we dwell  on the past  as a way to distract ourselves . from the present . What happens in the past is a life lesson not a  life sentence .  One of the best way is to remove yourself from the enviroment of friends that kept reminding  you of the past . They are still stuck there and to have a break through you need distance .

Dwelling on the past causes fear and inabilty to take actions .  Its also interfere with your ability  to be your best self , – You cant enjoy  the present if your mind is always stuck in the past – The truth is we dont know what life would have  has in stock for us had we not made those choices .

By dwelling on the past , you will miss new opportunities and experiences and celebrating the joy of today if you are distracted by things that have already occur .

Here are few strategy to stop the past frm holding you back –

Shift your thinking

Schedule a time to think and reflect about the past  it could be 20 mins a day then move on

Give yourself something else to think about –

Establish goal for the future – Establish  both long term goals and short term goals .

Read a book a week on a biography  od a succseful person

Make peace with the past of get counselling .

Do 20 mins exercise daily – do conditioning 2 weekly to help you get clear  in the head .

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Harness Your Biology To Quiet Your Fear

Fear a from of stress i the most common research  and used against people in the last decades . No matter  how courageuos  you are , you will always feel the fear . Getting over fear is not something you just says to people . In my personal l experience , the more things you overcome , the less faer you feel . .

An energy psychiatrist  taught me the way to harness more of my courage  which has been ingrained  into me as an athlete . To win  you must have fear  and you must proceed with the game so i understand this emotion  that the more  obstacles you overcome , the more fear you will feel .

Fear works against   your bilology when it becomes a habitual response to lesser , everyday conflicts . Consistensely  feeling like a deer in the headllight can make you emotionally twitchy and physically spent .

When people says dont be afraid – its a wrong things  things to say – In any case i dont equate the  absence of fear with courage . Its the byproduct of lobotomised emotions . . Without something to overcome , there is no biological push .

Here are  ways to train your brain to send  chemicals to conteract  them .

Elliminate caffeine  sugar and other stimulants or reduce comsumption  -This fuel the fight or flight  response .

Avoid  people who Re- einforce  your fear .  – they are biological irritants . Stick  close to emotional nourisher

Stay away from violent news cast , traffic jams  arguments or other stress inducers .

Take a deep breath and do 20 mins exercise daily .

This week

30 mins conditioning 65 percent to 56 heart rate





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Let Negativities Be

We are all programmed not to fight for ourselves or believe that  certain  behaviour and tendencies  are considered  positive or negative .  Dont focus your energy in an attempt to change yourself . – isued to makes so much grammatical error wrtiing in english because i write other languages  like dutch and french my brain got compliicated  until i learn to focus my energy on what im supposed to do to get better .

You can be as negative as you want to be , and cursing and moping and your inner voice often tells you that you cant do it , dont fight back.  – yeild to your voice by ignoring it  . dont focus your attention or energy in an attempt to change your opiinon of yourself , because that will bring you more misery and confusion .

By ignoring your voice , you are able to free yourself from the trap thats says changes  comes before suuccess .  Weve been trapped to think and beileve that change comes before success but focusing on what you supposed to do will actually lead to succss and bring change .

Focus your time and energy  on being succesful then the changes will emerge .

Want to lose weight – focus what you are supposed to do like get up and walk .


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Say No To Negative Chatter

Recentlly ive been saying no to many things , this might  sound crazy but my creativity increases , my sales increases  and my ability to persuade , influnce goes up . I decided i want to get so good in saying no , actually i was advised by  a virtual mentor to do more NO  . Im not really a yes person but he made understand  certain things like saying No to negative chatter .

You need health to have the energy to create the life you want live – Most people try to love , their kids , their  spouse , Most people try to take care of the ones they love and be there for them . But sometimes we get stuck , our obligations runs up againt our true belonging taht comes from deep inside . Longing that cant be ignored . .

Ezapmple of a negative chatter is – how can someone say that to me ?  i cant wait to prove them wrong , Why does that person look like an idiot ,  Do i look ugly , How come he doent understand me , The list goes on .   When you are consume with all these chatter ion your brain , then you delay your energy to flow for creativity  .

The first  thing is to make friemds with people that are good for you – you need top spend time on these . the easiest    way is people who challenge  you to be better .

So often  we beat yourself  up with anger and worry . This is the worst form of cruelty so you need daily  practise to recognise  this and stay way from negative  chatter

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Wisdom Depends On Personal Vigilance

One of the things that ive learned and taking seriously this year is self vigiliance – its easy to get lost in in this era of social  media – i personally use my platform to sell my services and expertise not how coo im . . Most people dont realise that both help and harm comes from within ourselves , instead they look to external and deby appearance

Wise people realised that we are the source of everything  good or bad  so they therefore dont resort to blaming and accusing others . Most time people dont see themselves  thats why i usually suggest crtical thinking and self evaluation .

I spent 30 mins daly on brain dumping and crictical  thinking – ive not always be like this but i love to learn and grow . Weve been trained  to self denial  because its easy to blame someone else for our problems .

If wise people experienced  a challenge , they look to themselves , if they are commended by others they also quietly smile to themselves  , a wise person dont feel the need to defend themselves in any circumstances because they know that they have to watch  out for themselves  s and the direction of their own desires ..   Keep this in pratcise will help to develop better awareness and increase wisdom .

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How To Speak Language Of Love- Encouraging words

When you speak language and loving worsd to yourself , you are directly speaking it to other people . A frined of mibe suggested i raed a book from Dr Chapman – the 5 language of love is an eye opening for me . – very one who want to communicate better and get more loving from people should read this book .

The best loving is to encourage , sadly  most people dont . Getting verbal compliments is only one way to express words of affirmation on your kids , spouse etc . – The world encourage means to inspire courage . All of us have ares in which we feel insecure – most people try to cover this because they lack encouragement from people around them

Because we lack courage those courage always hinders some positive things we like to do , thats the reason many people hires outside eyes like a mentor or coach to encourage them

I always  like to encourage my clients to pick a new weight or started a new way of exercise  or eating habits – i know that positive re-einforcement actually  get people to do things rather  than discouraging them .

Most of us have potentials we will ever have to  develop , whats hold us back is encouragement  A loving partner can supply all that . If you want to achieve  great things , then you need to move a away from people   who critisizing  and condemming you .

Exercise that burn fats within short time

Kettle bell swings x12 – 15

Walikng lunges 8 to 12

Repeat 2 to three round . Rest as needed


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