Ive had so many grief in my life, most of them brought into my self . Whenever tragedy strike there is no point in me telling you not to grief , but during the time of grief , work out your own grief . Learning to do this will enable you to adopt new possibilities of dealing and experiencing your own pain .
Dont indulge in excessive misery – Keep your misfortune to yourself and only share it with those who can truly help you . Dont allow people feeling sorry for you because it brings more misery and negativity .
Allow a solution to make itself clear – When in crisis , its better to step back rather than panicking . During each crisis , the new opportunities are always there if we give ourself chance to recognise the new opportunities .
The misery in getting better or improving our life is an experience that comes with tragedy – when you are getting better , picking new choices , new skill, you are going to experience pain and tragedy . Learning to work through this will open up new possibilities .
Look for people who has gone thorough the same grief and how they overcome the problems – not some support group because that will bring more misery . Someone who has been able to deal with tragedy successfully .
Beware of average people – especially when tragedy strikes because they will excaberate your feelings of failure and might develop the idea that you are staring at the same fate . Remember , misery loves company .
No matter what the tragedy is , there is always a new possibilities one you work through the pain .
Teacher it is so rare for me to comment on other peoples thinking, but this time I feel the need to because I agree with you. Also to see these words written it sounds so easy when the reality is this is one of life’s hardest lessons.