Most of us has not t been taught on how to express our needs also most of us has never been taught to think in terms of our needs , I can recall many time that i think a friend or my mom should automatically understand my needs and when she doesnt i have a build of anger compounded inside me . .
As i started learning how to communicate , things get easier thou im a very direct person in term of saying what i need but this time around without violent . Most times when we talk about what we need rather than want , we tend to get what we want . There is a huge different between needs and making a request .
We need to express what we need rather than talking about what is wrong . , and the moment we do that , the possibilty of finding ways to meet everybody need will be greatly increase . It takes a lot of practise to learn how to express our needs and when we dont we feel great pain in our heart .
Another pain is we are oftned judge mostly by identiying and reveal our needs . i guess thats the reason people tend to hide their needs and feelings .Most people are full of anger because their needs has not been met , If we dont value our needs , other may not either
The more we acknowledge and value each others feelings and need the more we come together and build a loving relatioships . I communicate my needs this days in a various ways without the needs to compromise but by becoming more aware of other peoples needs too .