Complaining is not one of those things that is hard to refrain from unless you are really working on the habits of no complaining. We must be aware and pay attention to our daily habits to stop complaining. I once attended a workshop where the teacher gave us a rubber band or a jar, we either put money in the jar or stretch the rubber band to hit us every time we find ourselves complaining.
What I’ve learned is some people might even put up a fight if you don’t let them complain. It’s not an easy thing not to complain because it makes the complainer feel good, complaining is reacting to the pain we are already feeling in a negative way.
Complaining sucks the air out of a new possibility that may appear in the present moment, it drags things down into a depressive mode and leaves us drained. It doesn’t let you see the new opportunity in front of you. It’s easier to get stuck into complaining and blame circumstances or other people for our problems, but it will sink us more into darkness.
When we stop to complain we begin to see every situation as an opportunity, we shift our perception and we accept the miracle of seeing things in a different way rather than being stuck in the old way that never works.
Generally, people tend to want to complain – that doesn’t mean you allow people to walk all over you or let them impose their problems on you. Complaining is different from standing up for ourselves, if someone tries to steal our energy then we speak up. Complaining is a low frequency energy, the ones that never amounts to anything.
What you can do is observe and be aware of the energy around you – if you allow people to complain it will drain the hell out of you; always change the conversation to weather or to sport.