Im sure you already know this – people needs to feel valuable , from a waiter , to a porter at your biggest departmental store or a club – its unbelivable how people respond to someone that make them feel important . Personally i dont think people should compete for feeling important . .When you make people feel important you give them a gift – some people needs it more than other Its different from making them feel felt or interesting . because you touch them in an even deeper way when you make someone feel valuable .
We all have the potential to make people feel important – it has nothing to do with manipulating or giving false compliment thats short lived . Being engaging in a conversation without your thought wondering is a sign of emotiional I Q and you are telling this person that he or she is very valuable in some ways .
I was reading a busness book where most manger of a coporate company needs to learn to make employes valuable and this contribute to high performance at the end of the year . If your emotional IQ is high , you will find a way to show the people you value – parents , children , a partner , a boss , a clients , a key co worker how much they mater .
Im always saying make other people look good , it will always make you more valuable and make both parties important to each other , Even go out of your way and make the annoying people in your life important . – The answers is this high maintenance people constantly need to feel important because they feel they dont feel special or the world is not treating them right . Everyday they try to impress or overpowering the people around them and everyday they fail .
They are craving for attention and if they cannot find it in a good way then they look for a bad way . No wonder we have people doing crazy things to get attention . Personally the best way you can make people feel important is to deeply engage and tell them they matter . So the moral is the good people in your life need and deserve reassurance that they are valued . Give people what they want even the annoying people they will give you want you need .