Its not just sad or tragic events that leave people focused on the past . Sometimes we dwell on the past as a way to distract ourselves . from the present . What happens in the past is a life lesson not a life sentence . One of the best way is to remove yourself from the enviroment of friends that kept reminding you of the past . They are still stuck there and to have a break through you need distance .
Dwelling on the past causes fear and inabilty to take actions . Its also interfere with your ability to be your best self , – You cant enjoy the present if your mind is always stuck in the past – The truth is we dont know what life would have has in stock for us had we not made those choices .
By dwelling on the past , you will miss new opportunities and experiences and celebrating the joy of today if you are distracted by things that have already occur .
Here are few strategy to stop the past frm holding you back –
Shift your thinking
Schedule a time to think and reflect about the past it could be 20 mins a day then move on
Give yourself something else to think about –
Establish goal for the future – Establish both long term goals and short term goals .
Read a book a week on a biography od a succseful person
Make peace with the past of get counselling .
Do 20 mins exercise daily – do conditioning 2 weekly to help you get clear in the head .