Human beings are very complex , you never know when your actions or your words would be considered deeply offensive . . Wether your intention is to offend or flatter it will be considered deeply offensive . Most people are offended easily and whatever you say will always be interpreted as each person private perception of themselves .
I have a friend who grows up with an absent father and a dominated mother . . She grew up with dominating mother and obtain 3 masters degree . , however she has a hard time in applying her schooling to the real world . She show no interest in entering any profession in which she has studying . ,
Whenever i saw her she would complain about her tough her life was , how much she needed money , and how awful her living conditiioning were . . I always encourage her by praising her abilty to obtain three masters degree while others were having difficulty having one .
I didnt realise that deep inside her she harbours feelings of inferiority towards me because of her own lack of courage and proffesional accomplishement , she did not know how to alter her current circumstances and had her grown bitter . For people like her , you cant do much because no matter what you say , they will always find fault .
The best thing to do is to protect your self and energy from these kind of people and press on with your life . You dont need to win them all .