Why Diets Succeed And Fail

Its always about small changes that helps achieve bigger result , im writting this because this is the time of the year  when some people decide to change their  eating habits or start something new which they will eventually give up when the going is tough . Please if you start something new please dont let fear stop you but instead use it as growth .

The really simple answers why we get fat is the fat carbohydrate make us fat . most of us know the people who say they lost significant weight after joining weight watchers  or starting to exercise . , the better expalnation is any diet that succeed is because  the dieter restrict fattening carbohydare from the diet .

To put it simply , those who lose fat on a diet do so because of what they are not eating . – the fattening carbohydrate , not because of what they are eating . So basically we succeed because we stop eating food that make us fat and we gat fat because  we eat a lot of food that that make us fat .  Whenever we go on a diet , we always make a considerable changes to what we eat .

So when calories  restricted  diet fails , as they typically do and the same can be said of exercise programm , the reason is that they restrict something other than the food that make us fat . , they restrict fats and protein which has no longer effects on insulin and fats deposition but are require for energy and for the rebuilding of cells and tissues . This is one of the major reason why diets fail

In order  words when you starve your body of nutirents thats require to build muscle and sustain energy , the resultant  hunger will lead to failure .  Our body also changes as we age so is our cells . we need to keep on feeding good quality food in order to maintain good diet and less frquent hunger .  I remember when i fall for low calorie diet and i was always hungry and not good result with my diet and my behaviour .

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My Top Ten Lessons In 2018

The lessons welearn  ius to keep us focus and growth . well this year has been a roller  coaster and exposed to things i dont consider a big deal ul nti people turn it to a bigger ones which bring me to number one lesson

Discipline  and structure – What i dont realised is that people  that rare not discipline also lack of self  believe in themselves and other people . Its a great lesson to know that when dealing with people from relationships, busness clients  and even children , my spot discipline has to be constantly  in check .

Investing  in people –  means i need to grow out of my comfort zone to leean more and add more value  to people around  me – so  i bring  the energy focus , i mean intense focus to the people around me .

ENNVIROMENT AND PARTNER –  In oct i attended several  workshop  and event which most of them are smarter and passionate  , being among this people inspire me to elevate my game and making me a better person . Remember  if you are in an enviroment  where you cnstantly need tp prove yourself , then it will impair your growth .  You need to be around people who challenge you not who defend  their  actions .

Re- Invention – I realised  i have to keep on evolving – once you are doing this you dont need to worry about the trend . no body likes to say  the same  thing all the time ,. no one like s boredom every one wants stability and  variety .

Study Failures –  I dont usually study  failures but only sucesss but my failures has taught me not to be arrogance because when i did i regretted it , so dont be a jerk , respect anyone you will have less problems . – not the ones who purposely want  to put you down  thou

Learn  to be discretive –  Its good to be open minded but ive learnt to be discretive about my goals – you never know the energy that will attacking it . A wise man keep its mouth shut .

Silence –   The more silence im the better i become . i found in silence , i found most answers .

GLUTE WORK – This is the best innovation ever regarding   training , looking awesome and having amazing sex . you want   to incoporate glute training into your training   programm dont take my word for it just give it a shot .

Action beat worry –  I picked the habits of taking an action if i start to worry about things .

Getting Rid Of My Credit  card – is awesome .  i learnt to become more relentless  and less victim of needy .

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Buy Quality , Buy Right

One of  the  best way you can decrease anxiety and live well is to enforce high standard  in all aspect of your life , it will saves you energy and money .Quality item gives you peace of mind . A coat that cost you 500n pounds will last you over 12 to 15 years . There is a reason one cost you lots of money and the other is cheap . For example no good things will ever comes out of an average restaurant .

Quality items gives you peace of mind . people who spend on quality are generally happy people to get on with , buying an expensive items will also saves you money than a cheaper alternative . Im lucky to have grown up in a family especially my dad who only  buy quality foods , clothes and shoes . even if you dont  have a role model of quality , you can learn from the people you see with quality .

Always buy quality  so you dint have to buy a lot . The habits of buying quality  has to do with a mindset . – remember  you cannot change people mindset , but you can influence them with yours . I dont buys things very often , but when i do i buy very good quality and this actually saves me money , energy and time .also every time i see the item it makes me happy .

The best way is to always focus on the quality and the benefits of an item rather  than the cost . Poor quality items will always hold you back , its like poor quality  people . More over quality  items is like an investment and you happier on the long run


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How To Stop Emotional Blackmail

Some people are always looking for someone to inflict  their pain on because thats the only way they will feel better about themselves . They can just help it . They are either good or bad and they are afficionados of love – hate relationships . These people also know how to turn people against  each other . you need to learn  how to detect these other wise you will never figure out why people suddenly turn against  you for no reason .

I once have a friend once i introduced her to other people then the other people will start changing behavoiur towards  me and it took me a lots of awareness from my part to understand this blackmailing , One of the best way to detect if you have this people in your life is to —

Do you go to great pains to keep the peace ?

Is he or she only adoring when  you meet their  needs ?

Do you frequently  feel wrong accused ?

Take a look at your answers , you might dealing with energy vampire in your life and you can liberate yourself by using these tactics .

You  need to understand that you cannot help these people because they havent learnt to self nuture by activating their heart  energy or making a spiritual connection .

SET A STRONG BOUNDARIES – These kind of people  respond to structure  – you can start with , please dont talk about me to friends and family . or not to talk about other people to you . Your job is to modify the behaviour – un emotionally  .

REFUSE TO TAKE SIDES – Be careful about accepting a negative assesment of others . or letting his or her opinions destroy  your relationships with another person

RELASE NEGATIVITY –  Break eye contact to stop the transfer  of negative / toxic energy .

Your goal is to see people as they are and protect your sensitivity . learning  these tactics will take time but at least you free yourself from vampire – you can now use your energy in a productive  way and be happier .

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Love Is Quality

Love is a quality  we have to attain by ourself and bring it into other peoples life . A pysycologist  once said to me that hate and anger  are not natural . . Love is natural , anger is a poison to the body . When love flows into your body , you feel good and become reachable . Love is a quality so is mobility and flow of energy .

Its amazing how people are chasing love without realising that the love is within them and people are forcing people to love them and the relationships   become hypocrity . The people around you are teaching  you relatioships instead of love . Nobody is teaching love .

Most people are teaching attachement  and they call it love . Be loving , because is you are loving , you cab loving to anybody .Even sometimes the neigbour may be more loving that your parents but its your parent duty to take care of you and this has nothing to do with love .

Love never gives you misery , because if you love someone you love his happiness  . If you are attached to someone , you dont like to see them  happy . Most lovers keep  on exploiting themselves and they are concerned with their  ego centric demand . This is not love , but pure attachment  that leads to misery .

This is the reasons many lovers break up and turn to hatred . Love is quality , you have to create it , you have to grow only then you can create love in others .

Be loving and love will follow you .

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How To Gain WillPower In Your Sleep

Lack of will power often result  to more stress and lack of self control . and you will be thinking what sleep have to do with will power . The power of will power and sleep is huge poor sleep sap will power . The biologist and  the neuroscientist agrees to this fact . For starter , sleep deprivation impairs how the body and brain use glucose and no amount of will power gadget in the world will help you once you are suffering from sleep deficeincy

The less you sleep , the more you lose self control . – when you are tired , your cells have trouble absorbing  glucose from the blood stream . .This leave them underfueled  then you are exhausted with your body and brain desperate for energy , I can see this in people when they dont have enough sleep then they want energy by all means and these reslut in cravinga and temptations .

Your pre-frontal cortex , the energy ares of the brain will be impaired with lack of sleep and it loses control over other region of the brain . and the body get stuked  in a physiological fight or flight state . and this result to loss of self control .

Now you can see that sleep has a huge impact on how we gain will power  and self control rather than blaming ourselves or feeling gulity about losing control , maybe we should focus on getting a good sleep that will enhance our abillty to resist temptation

The good news is to increase the quality of your sleep time . I oftened  suggest to a new mothers or exhausted parent to get more sleep and never compromise sleep in other to be an effective parents .

We can put certain things off but not sleep . For better will power , get more sleep

Let me know your thought on this .





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How To Deal With Anxiety

A very good virtual mentor of mine has a phrase – actions beat anxiety  and i says dsicipline equal freedom . All pyscologist in the world will not help if we dont change and do the work . Feeling  anxious all the time is a sign of chronic stress and it needs to be dealt with in a  pragamtic approach .

The first  thing you want to do is quit being lazy . – When ever i mentions this to my clients , they get offended – doing lots of things does not mean that you are not being lazy , im reffering to doing the right  thing which takes discipline and this is the root of anxiety for many people .

PREPARATION – Prepare in advance  is one of the best  copping mechanism for dealing with anxiety . Plan your week in advance and plan your days early . wake up before everyone do fews thing that will push you ahed , If i wake up 30 mins late , it have a negative effects on my day .

STRUCTURE – Work on a structure that works for you . I usually work from 6am to 2pm . then reward myself with talking  to a good friend  or taking walk ot playing golf and this allows me to work harder because ive already done my hard work in the morning . The world is structure  to make you obedience  but you need to plan your own way to reduce anxiety and early death .

COMMITIMENT  – Commit to few things daily , not many things , Then you get better and also reduce anxieties .

GET OUTSIDE -Outside activities help bring in the clear thinking , a better circadian rythm  for a good night sleep .  You know the say , good night night sleep reduce anxiety . Talk to someone that nourish you not people that drains you .

If you find this article useful = please share it with someone dealing with overwhelming anxiety .




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