Attention Is Love

Attention is a big deal, everywhere we go people will do stupid things to get attention. We all need to be paid attention to, so how do we do that?  In psychology and my deep observation I know that attention is love. When we extend ourselves to other people without ego but with genuine love. We go the extra mile in the face of fear, then we have the courage, That’s love.

The first sign of a genuine love is attention. Love has no ego boundaries. Genuine love is self-replenishing which means we contribute and commit to the spiritual growth of another person. The reason most people don’t succeed in love is their lack of spiritual growth.

Free love is an ideal, but an ideal most people are not capable of. The most common way and important way in which we can exercise our attention / love is by listening. A friend of mine is a business executive who spend roughly an hour of his day reading, two hours talking and eight hours listening. That’s a man of love. No wonder he has becomes very powerful in his position.

The more I extend myself to people, listening, supporting their growth, the more I grow too. The more I pay attention to people, even on the street, the more I see joy on their face. Listening well is a work of an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It’s hard work and that’s why most people don’t listen well and don’t love either.

I’ve been working on this for so long a time and is becoming easier to ask questions and listening instead of talking – I’ve even gained more friends.

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Knowledge Is Not Wisdom

Seriously, you can read and acquire lots of knowledge for the ego which is very subtle, it depends on you. I read a lot because I’m always looking for ideas from good authors who have gone through or experienced the challenges that I’m going through. It’s like people who are constantly looking for inspiration, to be inspired, you must have great   intelligence.

Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge. If you are reading just for the memory then you are going in the wrong direction, that’s what is school system teaches you. If you want to increase your wisdom then you need to accept the challenge.

A friend of mine said he wanted to have a lot of wisdom, I suggested he stop running   away from risk, to embrace the unknown and dedicate to reality. By finding the map to your life you start to gain wisdom.

Our roots to reality is not easy, so is wisdom. In fact you can become very knowledgeable which is harmful and dangerous. Before you start mixing up knowledge with wisdom, you must understand that wisdom comes from dedicating to reality.

Start facing the reality rather than escaping from them. That’s how you gain wisdom.

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Estrogen hormones – Archetype Of Femininity

I wasn’t aware of these hormones and its role in a women’s body until I started going deep into what affects women as we grow older. I’ve heard a doctor talking about it but not in-depth. Estrogen is the hormone that most define you as a woman. In fact estrogen is the primary female sex hormone. The point here is the excessive production of this hormone when it’s out of balance can make women depressed and cranky.

It’s important to know what these hormones do and how you can keep  yourself vital looking, as some women I can see have excess of these hormones and is affecting them.

Here is a short version of what these hormones do:

Externally, estrogen gives you breasts and hips. More estrogen also makes you voluptuousness. Round and robust.

Internally, estrogen buffets your mood and keep you on task, in short it’s nature’s prozac  – it adjusts levels of serotonin, another important neurotransmitter. When you see men with boobs and a big belly, it means they have the high dominance of estrogen hormones in the body.

Estrogen has to balance in the body, it’s directly related to progesterone, ideally you have a rhythm between these two hormones. It takes two to tango; when they work together, your bones are strong, dense. Your skin is hydrated, smooth and well girded by collagen.

Your metabolism is forgiving, your cardio vascular system stay clear of plaque. You perform task effortless. It’s a very important that it needs to be balance in the body otherwise you become cranky, chunky, and depressed.

If you’re feeling cranky and low, talk to your doctor about estrogen and dopamine.

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How To Have A Good Day

We all want and love to have a good day. I recently learned and started to consciously apply to my daily behaviour that if you want to have a good day, you have to do good things. It’s easier to say than act. Seriously, taking actions on good things is very challenging and I figure out that it’s a thing you just act on without getting anyone involve.

To guarantee having a good day is to do good things. Since most of us tend to do things based on rewards or how we feel, it can be hard to do good things.

Meditation –  Meditation has helped me a lot when it comes to my choices and actions. It helps you gain some insight before you react to things. Having a good day is good for mental health and happiness. You will always have to make a tough decision to have a good day.

To have a good day, you must focus on your choices. Ignore everything else and focus on your choices. Doing good things also comes as a form of self-reliance.

In my fitness business I tend to focus on doing good things and these actually generate me more clients than spending money on marketing.

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Show, Not Tell, What You Know

One of the most challenging things is to put what you know to work rather than splitting it out. It’s difficult and challenging to get real info or wisdom that will actually help because people don’t put information to work but just spill it out. I’m glad that I’m writing this blog because it’s very hard for me to take an idea from what someone who is only telling me but not showing.

Evolution is about actions. Actions and challenges brings wisdom and knowledge. Lately, I’ve been trying to move home, the experience has not been pleasant. It’s full of system that is set up to control people.

Showing what we know is very challenging, but that’s where power and wisdom comes from. Showing means I have to go thorough the practise myself, practise and get better with information before transferring it to another person.

So any time you catch yourself wanting to drop some knowledge that you have, take a deep breath and think would I be better saying a word or letting my actions illustrate that knowledge for me.

Thanks for reading. Let me know how its working for you in a world where everyone  tells without showing.

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Marriage, Stress And Cortisol – Aging

In my thinking marriage favours men more than women when it comes to health. Compare to men have lower blood pressure and the tendency of becoming alcoholic is lower in men than women. Married men have lower blood pressure when at home verses at work. The way women age too has to do with what is going on at home.

Men worry only about their work while women worry about work, husband and children. This is the root of deep emotional problems for most women. Husbands who engage in a strength training have lower cortisol levels and help out with housework or hire someone to help the wife out.

When husbands help with the housework, their wives had stronger evening recovery. So division of labour within couples / marriage improves your health, relationship and sex life because running  around till the end of the evening will do more damages to the hormones.

When your body makes too much cortisol, you raise your blood sugar; not only that – the elevation of cortisol causes an effect that when your adrenals are producing cortisol the rest of the hormones fall into neglect. What concern me most after extensive research on this, I can see how high cortisol constricts blood flow to the brain.

That affects brain function, decreases emotional intelligence and accelerates related cognitive function. To cut the story short, your memory begins to suck!

The whole point of this is to be aware that high cortisol has a lot of effect on how the marriage works. In order to protect your health, do strength training, sprinting and yoga. Also breathing and meditating .

The bottom line is as a women – you need to protect  yourself; it’s never your husband’s work but your own.

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Learn To Go With Your Gut – Instinct

Have you  noticed that your gut is your wisdom? I have felt that experience many times, and we all feel it countless times. We are griped by a powerful feeling, a sense of certainty that tells us what to do. Don’t eat that food. Don’t date that guy. Don’t hire that person. Most of the time we don’t listen then disaster strikes.

One big source of wisdom is intuition, we all have it, we just need to nourish our intuition to let it grow so that we can make use of our wisdom to thrive at work and in life.

Intuition is not intellect, I’m not immune to this most time I don’t listen to my gut and I learn in a very hard way. The only way you can develop your instinct is by being meditative – staying physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy.

Intuition / instinct is not an easy thing to develop because you need to get enough sleep for this part to develop. Intuition is about connection and its more powerful than intellect as it’s the act of foreseeing things other people can’t see.

How to develop your gut:

  1. Get lots of sleep. Relax and breathe. Meditate. Sit in a room for about 10 mins without any noise. If 10 mins is too long, start with 5 mins.
  2. Put away the smart phone – it’s not making you smarter, it denies you of your wisdom.
  3. Please start learning to listen to your gut – you will definitely work better and be happier.
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