Label Me – Cunning And Ruthless

Sometimes you cannot   avoid labelling because most people label  themselves  anyway . As im writting these i remember  attending a seminar when a wise women told me that there are three kind of people  to look for – those who know they are out to get you and say so , those who are nice people but due to their ineptitude cannot help themselves  from victimizing you  – who cares . And those who act like nice people but under thir kind existence  are ruthless and cunning .

Ive has opporttunity  to deal with these kind of people in my life and its a great lesson to pass on to other people and our future generations . Most people through  their  association with you have  set immaginary and unrealistic expectations and when you fall short they label you , no matter  how noble your motives may have been ., you will not escape  being labeled as cunning and rutheless person who has made them the victim .

In the past it used to bother me a great deal , whenever  i was labelled unfavourably , now if i   were to be labelled as cununing and ruthleess , so be it .

Human being create their own reality according to individual  perceptions . . The reality never change but the perception will be altered .  One of the best way  to deal with ruthless people is if you suspect that they have no moral boundaries in accuiring thier desire – dont get involve . . When you master detachment  fro your own greed and desire you will save yourself lots of  heartache and loss .

 

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Taking Risks

Seriously i have never thought much about taking risk because i think thats what most people do . well i grow on playing competitive sports so risk taken has been living with me for a very long time , I always have a heard time explaining to people that the outcome doesnt really matter but the process and getting better is the most important but i guess im wrong ,

For instance when i tell people that i won a busness which i dont see as a big deal then , they start to see all the risk involve rather the growth involve . I also learned that at the universities when i talked to students on enterprenuerships or busness , they all know what  they want to do but not equipped with taking risk .

Taking risk i a lossening up on the known and the certain and safe to reach out for something you are not entirely sure of but that according to your best evaluation will work sometimes you think you know where you are going to land but you are not always certain

Many people do not want to take a risk untill they know everything is perfect . their ego will not let them . Ego is always a barrier to any risk taker . They sit back and wait for the perfect moment , perfect time , the problem with this approach is it never come .

When i started with my studio , i had no idea what will happen but i have the altitude and the belief that its going  to work . and its working . And also note that the company  you keep matters because most people that cannot take risk will do anything to talk you of it

I have live the life of planning , thinking , jumping  , calculating  and it has paid off . Please whatever close to your heart that you want  to  do , evaluate  and take a baby step .

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Few Signs To Spot A Toxic Relationship

Realtion ship is the core centre of our life , just like our brain . we all deserve to have  relationship  built on trust love and mutual respect . Give yourself also the opportunity to cultivate one . Good or happy relatiinn ship is good for the cells of the body , it nourishes everyone involve  and chances to grow . Quality relationships are the ones that pushes you past your limitations , always happy for your success  and take care of responsibilty

Our mental health will also be affected by the type of relationship we have . Ive had few  of bad friends in my life , very toxic and lead me to a total  darkness  but i used it as an opportunity to identify  my own growth  and whats missing and work a lot on cultivation a good relationship withe  the people around me . Here are the few sign to spot a toxic ones

A toxic relationship is not always easy to recognise , it can feel good at first , then slowly but surely , becomes toxic that we dont recognise ourselves anymore .When a relationship become based on needs instead of want then its no longer enjoyable . – need signifies that someone cannot manage without you and sadly most realtionshpis are like that .

Do you feel worse after  spending time with them ?

Have they ever threatened to hurt you physically or emotionally ?

Do they ask you for a lot of favours ?

Do you struggle to make decision  without them ?

Do they repeatedly put you down ?

Do they discourage you on doing things on your  own ?

Have they ask to borrow money and not paid it back ?

Have you found out they were talking badly about you behind your back ?

If you answer more than  one to these questions  then you are in a toxic relationship

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Avoid The Unlucky And Unhappy — INFECTION

The first  time i came across the idea of unlucky and unhappy was about tow years ago as i was reading from the law of power by Robert Green . Weve not been taught how certain human behaviours can have a negative impact in our life . The unlucky  and unhappy generally label themselves  that way to get attention and power .

You can die from someone else misery .Emotional l states   are  as infectious as disease . One of the rule of universe is to help other s . but not to be enslave by their problems Helping others feel good but you need understand the principle that guide against  the unlucky and unhappy .

The unlucky can be infectious we all go through misfortune and often being brought down by circumstances beyond our control , these deserves all the help  and symphaty  we can give them . But they are other who are not born by mis fortune or unhappiness but who draw it upon themseoves by their destructive habits . it will be a good thing to raise them up and change their  pattern .   More than not its thier pattern that end up getting inside and changing – Dont get close too much to them and always maintain  your  ground and distance .

I need you to understand that this is a game of power , the people you associate with are critical . If you hang around too long with sad people you become sad .  The answer is to judge people on the effects they  have on the world . .

There are people who attract happiness to themselves by their good nature . natural buoyancy and intelligence They are source of pleasure – you must find this people and associate with them . Never associate with those who share your defects because they will ree niforce everything that holds you back . Always associate  with people who will lift you up . Make this  a rule of life you will benefits more than all the therapy  in the world and thank you for reading .

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Education Is Freedom

When people talks about education  , there are probably  talking about people who spends lots of  time in academic world or who says only the free cab be educated and , but rather the lovers of wisdom who says that only the educated are free – epiciteus  Discources .

We all have a special knowledge  we aqquire in school can get grades , what is explainable and academicable . the other types of knowledge is not exactly  knowledge , its a way of doing things that we cannot really express in clear and direct  language .

Thou they are plenty of other choices than reading a book of phillosphy , i mean  other way of passing time which is always more easier  to do . But once you make a decision to be educated because you want to be free , fear less , and achieve a state of peace .

It is a lot easier to get distracted by watching T V or movies on you-tube than read  from a great mind who can actually help us to make a better decision  for our future . I had to develop the habits of reading for one hour in the morning or more and read before i go to bed which bring me to self knowledge which is a particular way is freedom .

So education on the other hand can be freedom but – knowledge and self knowledge  in particular is freedom .

 

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The pain Of Expressing Our Needs Versus Not Expressing Our Needs

Most of us has not t been taught on how to express  our  needs also most of us has never been taught to think in terms of our needs , I can recall many  time that i think a friend or my mom should  automatically  understand my  needs and  when she  doesnt  i have a build of anger compounded inside me .  .

As i started learning how to communicate , things get  easier thou im a very direct person in term of saying what i need but this time around without violent . Most times  when we talk about what we need rather than want , we tend to get what  we want . There is a huge different between  needs and making a request .

We need to express what we need rather than talking about what is wrong .  , and the moment we do that , the possibilty  of finding ways to meet everybody  need will be greatly increase .  It takes a lot of practise to learn how to express  our needs and when we dont we feel great pain in our heart .

Another pain is we are oftned  judge mostly by identiying and reveal our needs . i guess thats the reason people tend to hide their needs and feelings .Most people are full of anger because their needs has not  been met ,  If we dont value our needs , other may not either

The more we acknowledge  and value each others feelings and need the more we come together  and build a loving relatioships . I communicate my needs this days in a various  ways without the needs to compromise but by becoming more aware of other peoples needs too .

 

 

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Keep on Loving

Most times i tell people to love themselves and  the reactions always shocked me . Love is not a relationship , its a state of being and has nothing to do with anyone  else . And of course when you are in love , one is love . And certainly if you are not aware of you are , you cannot be love . – you will be fear and fear  is the opposite  of love .Now you see why lots of people are product of fear rather love because they are not aware of who they are

Thats  one of the reason im attracted  to  people without fear because   they are adventurers  , not boring , a   a man  full of fear is a boring man .  People who seek out new things always  turn into a great lovers . . Children are very good example because they are born with no fear . There is no other higher religion than love .

If you want a succseful life , you need to keep on loving . Meditate , dance , sing and go deeper into yourself . If you can allow love to happen to you then there is no fear , no ego , you start to blossom like a flower – because through love  everything will happen to you , meditation  , prayer , God – thats what jesus meant when he says love id GOD

But love  is difficult – fear has to be dropped and most  people are always afraid of one thing or the other , untill you drop the fear and become aware , love will  never happen so keep on loving you will  start to experience life in a different dimension .  Life is good but only if you can keep on loving , no manipulating  , no exploitation – just keep loving

 

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